Ray Goforth

Most people who are afraid of something, don’t want you to try it either, because they are afraid of it. So, they talk you out of it! Or at least they try…They downgrade your effort and they find a number of reasons for NOT letting you do it (the easy way : finding excuses!). So, don’t let these people scare you. Of course, it can be polite to listen to them first, but remember it’s your decision. Believe in yourself and just do it! You can make a difference!

Then there are these people who are afraid you will succeed. I sometimes meet these people, when I come back from a course that I followed. They see that I have changed and are afraid of losing me. So, they ask me to “behave” or become “normal” again. Hmm, interesting! Then, I have 2 choices, follow my instinct and really apply what I’ve learned or go back to my old pattern and nothing really changes. You see, only a minority actually creates changes in their life after attending a seminar or life changing course. Several try, but are brought back to their daily pattern by the ones surrounding them. They are afraid of losing you, when you are successful. Because you will change when you are successful, you’ll behave differently, have new friends, etc. So, this is what your current friends want to avoid. They are afraid of your success and so, they don’t let you be successful. And here I am, thinking that my friends would wish me all the best That’s at least what I am wishing for ALL my friends. If they are successful, I will still be wishing them even more success! It thought that’s what friends are for…encouraging each other, next to being there for them, whenever they need you.

Having said that, I know that you will not be influenced by what your friends and the people around you think about you. Of course, I am the only one

By the way, do you recognize any of these 2 types of people? I surely do. I could name a few

Lessons learned : if you want to be successful and make a difference in the world, go on and be successful, don’t let others scare you with their fears! Everyone can make a difference!

Enjoy every day,

Bert Verdonck
Lifehacker & Life Coach
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Fear and insecurity. A human basic need, but so many people today are gripped, almost paralysed with a sense of fear. The vulnerability often fosters a resignation to riskless living and to co-dependy (or is it interdependeny?) with others at work and at home. The problem, in my humble opinion (imho), is that we are living in an interdependent reality, and our most important accomplishments require interdependency skills well beyond our present (and future?) abilities.

Next is the lack of life balance. Our lives are increasingly complex, stressful and exhausting. For all our efforts to manage our time, do more, be more and achieve greater efficiency (through lifehacking?), why is it that we find ourselves in a situation of subordinating health, family, integrity and many of the things that matter most to our work? Go in earlier, work harder, more efficient, stay later and sacrifice more, seems to be bringing peace of mind, but is it really worth it? I don’t think so, but who am I to state that? I’ve been there (+100 hours/week for years), done that (bought the T-shirt if you like) and didn’t want it no more.

I consciously choose to do the work that I love (it hardly feels like work nowadays!), and focus on what I really want in live. I delegate “stuff” I don’t want to do or get rid of it in some way, so that I can dedicate almost all my time to enjoying what I do. I’d say I became pretty good at it by now And where are you? When do you start living (the life you really want)? What’s keeping you? When did you decide not to go easy on yourself? Get rid of that limiting believe and start living what you really dream of…I did it and so can you!

Something to think about, right?

Enjoy every day,
Bert Verdonck
Lifehacker & Coach

Most people are too afraid to make it to the start or the meeting place or whatever you’re into. Why? Fear kills…

So, show up and you are more than halfway through!

Enjoy every day,
Bert Verdonck
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- David Kekich -

Indeed we often get a feeling of fear or anxiety when we are out of control or not prepared. Our mind plays games with us and we feel uncomfortable. If we don’t take any action our mind blows up the issue at hand, doesn’t it? I learned a couple of lessons again recently

What about you? What’s your greatest fear? How do you deal with anxiety? Just get over it and move on? Sure, let’s do it!

Enjoy every day,

Bert Verdonck

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